Just weed through the ones that are not suitable for you - or let them do it themselves as they often do.
Seriously - who has time to talk to every single person on here "just in case"...
If you can do that you'll never be disappointed at how things turn out.
I'm an optimist by nature so when things do turn out well, I'm the better for it.
My criteria was well thought out, had strong logic and reasoning behind it and to deviate would have likely wounded someone other than myself in the end and there would have been an "end" should I have ventured outside of my preferences.
I have also thought out my criteria for getting to know others on here, and meeting when both want that.
Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.
So far I've had very good luck on POF and now have some good friends as a result.
I believe to know us is to love us and this takes patience, meditation,dedication and prayer.
I think it's about 50/50 - yes, there seem to be plenty of people on here that have shopping lists and high expectations, but there also seem to be many that are so desperate that they will settle for pretty much any person that talks to them.... the guy that wanted to move in with the women after talking to her for only 5 hours and professed to be in love with her already; or the woman that wanted to date the homeless man but wondered why all he wants to do is sleep in her car all day while she drives around looking for a job and what she should do about that.... There are ALL kinds of people on here, same as in the real world.
It is what it is - and it is whatever you make of it!
The interesting people make it interesting, the whiners make it a miserable place to be, the window shoppers and tire kickers make it a shopping spree!Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.